When most parents think of bullies, they worry that they children might become victim to one. However, the realization that you have a bully on your hands is also worrisome. What can you do if your child is the bully?
1. When your son gets into fights because he is a bully, you should calmly talk to him and explain to him how to resolve conflicts through words instead of fists. Teaching your son to communicate effectively can also help you determine the feelings that are causing him to bully other children.
2. If your daughter is more aggressive toward you or her siblings at home, the same behavior at school might show a bully. Encourage a physical activity such as running that can help her burn off the aggression.
3. If your child suddenly has toys or money that you did not give you, he could be a bully. Talk to him about who those items rightfully belong to and make him return them along with an apology. If your child has spent someone’s money or broken a toy, you can assign duties for which he’ll earn money to pay back his victim.
4. Kids often blame others for their problems as they learn to accept responsibility, but when your youngster fails to take responsibility or always engages in this behavior, she might be a bully. Lead by example by accepting when you’ve done something that resulted in an undesirable result.
5. Set a good example by calming voicing your frustrations to others in your life without fighting or resorting to physical confrontation. Unfortunately, some child bullies learn that this type of behavior is acceptable by watching their parents or other role models do the very same thing.
6. If his friends are bullies, he might engaged in the same behavior even if you don’t see it. Curb this behavior by limiting exposure to those children. Additionally, talk to your child about why the actions of his friends are wrong. He may simply go along with them because of peer pressure, which makes your job easier.
7. As the old saying goes, it’s better to reward good behavior than punish bad behavior. Provide positive feedback when your children handle conflict correctly or when you witness proper behavior in others.
Active parenting can cut the likelihood that your child becomes a bully, so speak up if you notice these signs.